Invited to Easter Conference 2018 are all WomenLesbiansTrans*Inter* feeling that they belong to the WomenLesbians BDSM community and feel solidarity to it.
For the terms women, lesbians, trans* and inter* self-definition applies. However you personally interpret these terms, if you identify with them you are welcome. In addition, it is important to acknowledge the history of the Easter Conference as an event created in the 1990ies by WomenLesbians and to feel solidarity to this scene. Everyone who sees themselves in this tradition and feels to be part of this community is welcome.
We want to emphasize that people who are HIV-positive are very welcome at our event. Cis-men living as men are not invited and cross-dressing alone does not entitle you to
Who is invited?
Rethinking old debates
Year after year, we discuss the door policy. Every time, these discussions tear people apart, no matter if they take place in private, heated online debates or at the conference itself.
Even if not intentionally, these debates tend to be transphobic, lesbophobic and based on body normativity and denial of experiences of violence. They often have been hurtful, excluding, degrading and often full of violent tones and contents.
Hence, we want to step away from those debates. We do not want to talk about biological bodies or gender attribution anymore, we do not want to discuss who’s identity is accepted or not and do not wish to ponder who’s perception is more valuable.
Instead, we would like to talk about what kind of space we as a community want to create at Easter Conference and how we want to treat one another. Meaning, we want to talk about attitudes and about our conduct, weather alone, with friends or towards those we do not know and maybe do not understand.
To achieve that, we would like to apply our knowledge acquired within the BDSM context and to negotiate in a mutual appreciative atmosphere how we want to interact socially. One option is to use the safe-words applying in play scenarios in non-play situations as well and to apply the rules and general manners agreed upon for play parties in all social interaction.
Key for us, as the organizing team is being kind to each other, to interact on a basis of mutual acceptance, goodwill and respect for boundaries. We want to be in the company of people who approach one another with an open mind, enjoy each other and be happy with and for others and we sincerely want to experience being together at this event.
We plan to deal with problems and problematic behavior when it occurs. Meaning, we want to try to solve problems when they happen and not treat them theoretically in advance.
Beyond that, we try to create a space where different desires, ideas and plays can co-exist and that meets highly diverse needs. Our hope is that we’ll all be able to enjoy our diversity together.
We do treasure the diversity of our community. We have a terrific scene with hot people and it is wonderful that our desires, our identities, our bodies and our kinks are so wildly diverse.
We wish for an atmosphere enabling everyone to experience a beautiful, exciting conference with all and for all!
Respect and personal limits: We hope for a respectful, kind and friendly interaction among participants – at least as long as it is not negotiated otherwise ;-) The limits of each individual must be acknowledged.
Awareness to social inequalities: The conference is a special place, but it is not free from social structures. Also at the Easter Conference there is discrimination and exclusion. We especially want to minimize racism, transphobia, sexism, body norms and class differences.
Avoiding prejudices: To us this means avoiding assumptions based on skin colour, a perceived group affiliation, gender representation or bodies, be it shape, size or abilities. This also means not to question the lived reality, perception and experience of the other person – even if they remain poorly understood. It also means acknowledging the other person’s self-identification and the corresponding needs, and to take into account the wishes of the other.
Self-reflection: We are not the same – we do not have the same experience and do not have the same knowledge – that’s OK! It is impossible to completely avoid hurting others, we do not expect perfection. What we expect is a willingness to deal with one’s own actions and their impact on others.
Sensitivity: Do not assume that the other is like you. Be sensitive when and how you talk to someone – and responds that way when you are approached. Talk to each other, not against each other and trying to understand the other person. Ask if you do not understand something, listen to and respect the opinions of others, especially when you have a different one. Be true to yourself, open to criticism and see conversations about difficult topics as an opportunity for change and not as an attack.
In addition to the general rules of conduct, as self-evident as they are, there are also the rules concerning BDSM directly.
An important rule for us is to restrain from jugding the desire and being of the other. The motto of the entire conference is “Your Kink is not my kink but your kink is ok”. The beauty of the Easter Conference is that it offers a space to live out desires that are otherwise never or rarely accepted. It allows to reveal the intimate, without being judged and convicted. This wonderful opportunity is to be cherished and preserved.
We adhere to the principle „safe, sane, consensual“.
The following code of conduct has proven useful at many play parties within the
→ SchMacht-Network and applys to all play parties at the conference:
Responsibility for oneself
Respect and Discretion
Safewords and Intervention
The conference is intended for persons above the age of 18. Every conference participant is responsible for oneself and one’s own safety and by registering is agreeing to the terms and rules of the conference – including to play sane, safe and consensual. The organisers are not liable for any possible mental or physical harm or injury caused by participating in the conference and are not liable for lost or stolen items.