We define the group for which we want to make the Easter Conference, by three points:
(1) All women, lesbians, trans* and intersex persons, who (2) have been socialised as females at some period of their life and (3) feel belonging to the women’s/lesbian BDSM scene.
Regardless of how the terms women, lesbian, transgender and intersex are met individually – a person who recognizes her/himself in these categories, fulfils the first part of our definition.
By female socialization we refer to the attribution of what is perceived as the female sex by the general society. A person will be perceived as female and/or assigned the woman gender by many people s/he encounters. This perception involves both the conduct of the person him/herself and the conduct of the corresponding person. Every person who has experienced this (or attempted to experience during the transition), fulfils the second part of the definition.
By the women’s/lesbian BDSM scene in the context of conference, we refer to the scene that originated in the 1990s from the women’s/lesbian tradition and has created and supported the international BDSM Easter Conference. Who sees him/herself in this tradition and feels part of this scene, fulfils also the third point.
We want to emphasize that people who are HIV-positive are welcome.
Who is invited?
Respect and personal limits: We hope for a respectful, kind and friendly interaction among participants – at least as long as it is not negotiated otherwise ;-) The limits of each individual must be acknowledged.
Awareness to social inequalities:The conference is a special place, but it is not free from social structures. Also at the Easter Conference there is discrimination and exclusion. We especially want to minimize racism, transphobia, sexism, body norms and class differences.
Avoiding prejudices: To us this means avoiding assumptions based on skin colour, a perceived group affiliation, gender representation or bodies, be it shape, size or abilities. This also means not to question the lived reality, perception and experience of the other person – even if they remain poorly understood. It also means acknowledging the other person’s self-identification and the corresponding needs, and to take into account the wishes of the other.
Self-reflection: We are not the same - we do not have the same experience and do not have the same knowledge - that's OK! It is impossible to completely avoid hurting others, we do not expect perfection. What we expect is a willingness to deal with one’s own actions and their impact on others.
Sensitivity: Do not assume that the other is like you. Be sensitive when and how you talk to someone – and responds that way when you are approached. Talk to each other, not against each other and trying to understand the other person. Ask if you do not understand something, listen to and respect the opinions of others, especially when you have a different one. Be true to yourself, open to criticism and see conversations about difficult topics as an opportunity for change and not as an attack.
In addition to the general rules of conduct, as self-evident as they are, there are also the rules concerning BDSM directly.
An important rule for us is to restrain from jugding the desire and being of the other. The motto of the entire conference is “Your Kink is not my kink but your kink is ok”. The beauty of the Easter Conference is that it offers a space to live out desires that are otherwise never or rarely accepted. It allows to reveal the intimate, without being judged and convicted. This wonderful opportunity is to be cherished and preserved.
The following code of conduct has proven useful at many play parties within the Schmacht-Network and applys to all play parties at the conference:
We adhere to the principle „safe, sane, consensual“.
Responsibility for oneself
Respect and Discretion
Safewords and Intervention
The conference is intended for persons above the age of 18. Every conference participant is responsible for oneself and one’s own safety and by registering is agreeing to the terms and rules of the conference – including to play sane, safe and consensual. The organisers are not liable for any possible mental or physical harm or injury caused by participating in the conference and are not liable for lost or stolen items.